Discord Parental Controls App Review

Updated, May 3, 2021

What is the Discord app?

Description: The Discord app (https://discordapp.com/) is free, and the only cross-platform voice and text chat app of its kind, designed specifically for gamers. It was created to replace other, voice-over internet protocol (VoIP) services by offering features that gamers love, particularly those obsessed with massively multiplayer online games (MMO’s or MMOG’s).

It allows users to create and join servers, channels, or chatrooms to interact with select groups of people based on something they have in common forming a sort of “tribe.” Users can also send direct messages to other users so conversations are kept private. Some outside the gaming community are finding this app useful and have started using it to replace Skype or Facebook Messenger. It can be used on either desktops or phones.

Other attributes:

  • Users can access the app via their internet browser, PC, or mobile device.
  • The app is designed for users age 13 and up to use in real time while playing games.
  • In order to view content that is NSFW (not safe for work), users must confirm that they are 18 or older.

Category: Social Networking (which should tell you what they really emphasize – communicate!)

APP Store rating:

  • Apple: 12+ (infrequent/mild/mature suggestive themes, sexual content, profanity, etc.)
  • Google Play: Teen

Does Discord have true parental controls?

Discord has recently updated its rules related to NSFW (not safe for work) content, according to an April 2021 article:

  • No users between the ages of 13 and 17 will be able to join or view the content in NSFW servers.
  • 18+ users attempting to join or access new NSFW servers on iOS will be required to opt-in to viewing NSFW content on desktop before being allowed into these spaces.
  • Additionally, a subset of NSFW servers that are specifically focused on explicit pornographic content will be blocked entirely on iOS. iOS users aged 18+ will only be able to join and access these dedicated pornography servers on the desktop and web versions of Discord.

Therefore, the most important parental control is using the correct birthday when setting up the account. Discord makes it surprisingly difficult to change your birthday by submitting a support request, which we like!

What else do parents need to know about Discord?

It’s now a massively popular social media app. During the pandemic, Discord exploded to over 100M members and it now classifies itself in the app store as “social media.”

The app is fun for keeping groups in touch. Consider all the different circles of friends and associates each one of us has in life. Wouldn’t it be so much easier if we could connect with each directly through one simple app? For gamers, who see themselves as a tribe of their own, this ability to speak with other gamers is important.

Privacy and limits can be customized, but… Users who create servers or channels are able to limit who can join or message people within their group. The default setting, however, is no verification requirement at all.

Reports of abuse have skyrocketed along with the user base. According to a Tech Crunch article about Discord’s most recent transparency report,

According to the report, Discord said it received 235,000 reports between January and June 2020, compared to 128,000 reports during the last reporting period between June and December 2019.

Discord said it took action in 65% of cases related to spam — resulting in the removal of four million accounts — and just 13% in cases of harassment. Discord said it’s often clearer when someone is spamming, but the subjective nature of harassment makes it the “least actionable” category of reports.

Additional insights from the transparency report:

  • Discord banned 4,083,444 accounts for spamming.
  • The next biggest figure was over 150,000 accounts booted for exploitative content.
  • People kicked for harassment was the third-largest reason.

Is there pornography on Discord? 

The problem is that any digital environment that promotes secrecy or privacy to its users is always going to have a lot of inappropriate content, if you’re looking for it. In this way, Discord struggles. See the note above about entire NSFW servers.

Users intentionally create servers/groups in order to be private and at times, inappropriate with each other. Discord is now starting to moderate and review servers, but read this App Store quote from a parent:

“Our son was exposed to explicit sexual content, including videos, pictures, chats and video chats. There are also groups that are not gaming related and may have negative impacts on your children. Again, access to adult orientated topics. Many of the messages were from people seeking help, talking about suicide, doing drugs, cutting etc. I have no idea how old any of the other discord users are since I cannot view much detail in their profiles…I do not recommend this app for anyone who is not an adult.

Discord is a mature environment. Please proceed with caution. If your child sees horrible content on Discord or anywhere else, we have specific steps that might help: My Kid is Caught Up in Porn or Sexting. Now What?

GIFS, emojis, and images are easy to share. The interaction with images that could be sexual in nature would stem from the user and the user’s connections, which are able to be limited.

Discord NITRO. This is a $9.99/month ($99.99/year) subscription that gives gamers extra perks, like a unique Discord tag (identifying number), animated avatar, higher quality screen share, animated emojis and more.

Game streaming. As of August 2019, users can stream a game to up to ten friends. The feature is called ‘Go Live’ and is an extension of their video chat and screen share feature that was introduced two years ago.

Server Video. This drop-in, drop-out video chat is similar to Houseparty. So users select when they are open to chatting and other users can see that and join them.

The bottom line: is Discord safe?

It can be fun if used safely and with supervision, but it feels like a high school-level app. There are always risks, especially when direct messaging options are available. This kind of app can also foster an environment of secrets, if users are not cautious. And whether you’re 14 or 40, there’s no such thing as a good digital secret.

If appropriate security measures are not taken when creating a chat group or the person is not discerning when joining a channel, there can be privacy risk. Conversations surrounding the reason for use and the types of chatrooms being used and accessed, as well as the types of servers your child would create, should be foundational when deciding if you let your teen use this app.

Now What? Have you Heard of Bark?

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