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10 Before 10. Time to Make Porn a Normal Talk.

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10 Before 10. Time to Make Porn a Normal Talk.

Sometimes it’s really intimidating to talk about pornography with your kids.⁠ This “10 before 10” idea was inspired by Ginny with: @1000hoursoutside, who has so brilliantly quantified something that seems overwhelming.

You can do this! What about striving for 10 solid conversations about pornography before each of your kids hits age 10? Sure, more might be better, but just to give everyone a start. And, start early! Age 5 if you can (here’s some help!). This ensures that your ideas about pornography are embedded in them long before that first exposure.⁠

You don’t need to read them a research paper. Just talk! I’ve talked to thousands of parents about this topic. Some tips, tricks, ideas to get you started:⁠

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✅ Shoulder-to-shoulder (less intimidating)⁠.
✅ Read their signs – look for openness. Readiness. ⁠
✅ Be patient. Wait for them.⁠
✅ Car time. Meal time. Bed time.⁠
✅ Look for active times. Hands move = mouth moves⁠.
✅ Use age-appropriate words (here’s a post that helps!).
✅ Use a book.
✅ Use drips instead of dousing (little chats)⁠.
✅ Smile. Pray. Smile! ⁠
✅ Phrases like “Digital secrets – let’s avoid them!”⁠
✅ Give them a code word.⁠
✅ Don’t freak out! Don’t freak out! (if they tell you)⁠
✅ Steps: “Put it down. Tell someone!”*⁠
✅ “No matter what you see, you can tell me!”⁠
✅ “No matter what you see, I still love you!”⁠
✅ “You can always land safe and sound with me!”⁠
✅ Let 3-5 other trusted family members know.*⁠
✅ Did I mention, “Don’t freak out?” Yup!⁠

You are all amazing and I bet you have more amazing ideas! What other tips would you share with a nervous parent? Please comment!⁠
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*If you create a process, like our “Put it down. Tell someone,” it’s really important that other, trusted adults know the process. What we don’t want is my son bumping into porn on Grandma’s iPad, him telling Grandma, and her freaking out, which communicates to Blake that he did the wrong thing. Super important!⁠

If you’re wondering what the fallout can be when kids stumble and struggle with pornography, we’ve identified five impacts that can truly change the direction of a young person’s life. Use these as motivation to get the prevention side right! For a bit of a laugh, here’s a video about making “porn the norm” from a recent talk at Calvary Chapel Chino Hills:
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1 thought on “10 Before 10. Time to Make Porn a Normal Talk.”

  1. OMG! these are big issues for me I have two kids that are now 13 and 15 it’s a really bad age (teenagers) with ig views they saw many different things and now for me is really hard to explain to them how is everything. thanks for your help we should be more careful about our children.

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