**Updated December 2, 2020
Really, Mom, I’m STILL Doing Homework!
(2) Avoid the Toxic Trio – based on our research, 3 things contribute to good kids (and good adults) making bad digital choices – boredom, bedrooms, darkness. When those 3 are present, whether you’re 14 or 40, a lot of bad stuff seems good. Combat that with keeping devices out of bedrooms (you, too, parents!), and controlling WiFi and data access after 9:30pm.
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(3) You voice beats any parental controls – sit your kids down with love and care and talk to them about what specific concerns you have. Porn. Screen time. Bedrooms. TALK ABOUT IT! Calmly. Intentionally. Let them help you make the digital rules.
If they participate in the solution, they’re always more likely to comply with the solution.
(4) Let them make crap up – yes, that’s right. No screens every once in a while. That means you, too! Boredom is necessary for social-emotional well-being. Children must learn how to “be” with their thoughts and do nothing – which leads to something. Do you kids have resting notion of who they are? Go outside and be playful. Like kicking a rock down the sidewalk. Their imaginations will not come alive when the attention-greedy glowing screen is hogging the grey matter that could otherwise be plotting to take over the world. In their head.
I met with a principal of a large charter school in my home town this week, and he tells me the same thing each time we get together – today’s K-2 children are just different. They don’t know how to “do” school. Sit in desks. Hold a pencil. Focus on the teacher. He finds that his biggest job is training parents. According to a family therapist friend, the very presence of a smart device within reach of you impairs your ability to be in an authentic, rich connection with the humans around you. Lock it up!
(5) Do online stuff TOGETHER – we tell parents to be insanely curious about how their kids use technology and now’s a great time to head to the world-wide web with them. Maybe you play some Super Smash Brothers with them tonight (that’s one of my favorite boy/dad times). Maybe you watch some annoying YouTube videos with them. If their only digital interactions with you are negative and consequential, then what are the chances that when something bad happens online that they’ll come to you?
Maybe one thing you can do with your tween or teen is watch either The Social Dilemma or Childhood 2.0 with your tween or teen. Please be sure to screen them first to know if your child is ready for the content.
PYE is honored to be featured throughout Childhood 2.0, which you can find on YouTube and Amazon Prime. The Social Dilemma is on Netflix.
COVID is causing significant disruptions in all of our lives. While we’re taking steps to prevent the spread of COVID, we hope these tips will not only prevent online harm, but also build a stronger bridge of digital trust between you and your kids! After all, eventually, something unfortunate will happen online. And when it does, I want you to be their default search engine.
I want them to know that no matter what, they can land softly with you.
Chris McKenna, Founder: A man with never ending energy when it comes to fighting for the safety and protection of children. Chris practices his internet safety tips on his four amazing children and is regularly featured on news, radio, and podcasts for his research. His 2019 US Senate Judiciary Committee testimony was the catalyst for draft legislation and on-going discussion that could radically change online child protection laws and earned PYE the NCOSE Dignity Defense Alert Award in 2020. The PYE team has performed over 1,300 presentations at schools, churches, and nonprofits and was featured in the Childhood 2.0 movie. When not leading PYE, Chris is the Digital Marketing Manager for Covenant Eyes. Other loves include running, spreadsheets, nature, and candy.