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5 Most Dangerous Places for Kids to be Online

5 Most Dangerous Places to be Online

5 Most Dangerous Places for Kids to be Online

Where Kids Use Tech Dictates How They Use Tech

It’s impossible for parents to control all of the doorways that exist for a child to access the web. Creating an internet safety strategy for home is one thing, but how many other ways exist for your child to watch YouTube without you knowing? Although parents can’t control all of the environments where their kids spend time, there are a few high-risk environments that warrant more attention.

5 Dangerous Places For Digital Kids

This list is based on stories I’ve heard from real parents just like you.

1. Internet safety often isn’t top of mind at Grandma’s house.

Many of my most sacred childhood memories are from spending time with both sets of grandparents. Each lived in towns that were much different from mine. One close to the shores of Lake Michigan south of Traverse City and the other on 40-acres of farm, complete with a red barn, sheep, and a pony named Pat in central Michigan. I loved weekends, summers, and entire spring breaks spent with my grandparents.

Unfortunately, today I often hear from kids that when they are with grandma and grandpa, they can do whatever they want with their electronic devices. No rules and no routines. This, combined with a lack of digital know-how often create a perfect situation for kids to get away with more.

The Solution? Help grandma and grandpa with a strong router, parental controls on their devices, and have conversations laying out internet safety expectations. Have a straight talk with your kids – I mean, what kind of kid takes advantage of their grandparents? Make sure they know that if you mess with Grandma, life gets really ugly 🙂

Related post: How to Block Porn on Any Device. For Free!

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2. Internet safety is tough to enforce on the school bus. 

**Note – this one doesn’t apply quite as much during virtual school and COVID stay-at-home orders. But it’s something to be aware of in the future, when (hoping!) life gets back to normal!**

Protect Young Eyes began in 2015, and the first parent that came to me with their horror story of how their sweet, 6th-grade son was introduced to pornography involved the school bus.

Their son was on the morning bus ride to school when another kid on the bus started showing porn to everyone on an iPhone. One of the many sad aspects of this story is that the iPhone belonged to the kid’s father, which had been passed down to his son, which meant this was actually dad’s porn that just didn’t get wiped from the photos on the phone.

When I step back to think about the entire bus experience, there are many things that concerned me. The student-to-adult ratio is usually about 50-1, and the adult has little ability to observe anything happening on the bus due to his/her focus on driving. There’s typically a range of kids from kindergarten to  11-year-old 6th-grade girls through whatever high school kid can’t find a ride, which means the risk of unsavory language and influence is high. The lack of seat belts always has bothered me, but that has little to do with digital safety! My point is this – the bus ride is high risk.

The Solution? Have consistent and persistent conversations with your child, asking him/her what they are experiencing on the bus. Internet safety is essentially void on the school bus. Does your child know what to do when he or she sees pornography? If they’re old enough to ride the bus, then they’re old enough for you to have age-appropriate conversations about porn and digital dangers.

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3. Bedrooms (4. and bathrooms) are full of digital temptation.

During 10 years of junior high ministry, I spoke with quite a few kids who struggled with various digital issues. Whether it was cyberbullying, sexting, pornography, or just plain vamping (staying up all night staring at a screen), all of these issues occurred most frequently in their bedrooms. It’s a kid’s domain. His safe haven. Her kingdom. It’s the one place where your kid might be able to get away and just be alone with her thoughts…and that’s the problem.

All alone.

And, the temptations for a whole list of issues lurk heavier at night. There’s just something about the night time that brings out personal demons for most of us, young or old.

It’s the TOXIC TRIO – bedrooms, boredom, and darkness. Whether you’re 14 of 40, these three factors aren’t great for digital temptations.

Have you seen our webinar, The Toxic Trio? It’s 30 minutes, free!

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The Solution? Have rules for when and where technology is used. Oh, and it your son or daughter can’t have technology in their bedroom or can’t use their phone as an alarm clock, then lead by example and buy a dumb clock of your own. They’re watching you!

5. Internet safety is a nightmare at sleepovers!

**Note – this one doesn’t apply quite as much during virtual school and COVID stay-at-home orders. But it’s something to be aware of in the future, when (hoping!) life gets back to normal!**

I’ve written extensively about sleepover risk. More and more parents just don’t allow them anymore. Four teenage girls, Internet access, up at midnight live streaming through favorite social media? What could possibly go wrong?

The Solution? Your house, your rules. If you have kids over, make sure your wireless router is controlled, you’ve clearly stated your house rules, and parents of those kids know what’s expected, like “if you need something, text me because I’ll have possession of all phones at bed time.”

Related post: Sexually Abused at a Sleepover

The bottom line is that if your kids spend time in any of these environments, then the only effective filter is the one they take with them in their mind and heart. Whether you read the Bible or not, something from the historical book of Proverbs makes a lot of sense. “Train a child in the way he should go.” It was true then and it’s still true today!


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10 thoughts on “5 Most Dangerous Places for Kids to be Online”

  1. SCHOOL TOO,
    school has wifi
    during breaks everyone is watching bird box on Netflix,
    I’m only in grade (I ain’t tellin),
    and EVERYONE has social media,
    and EVERYONE goes on social media during breaks and even during class,
    School also has it’s own devices that they let kids who forget to bring their devices to school, (IPads, Chromebooks, Macs, ect.)
    And School has computers, and people can use social media from computer too
    DON’T TRUST SCHOOL

  2. Decent human being

    Everything I’ve read on this website is the epitome of a parent who is 100% way too overprotective. Kids are people too, you know. A parent is there to guide, not dictate every action that a kid makes. Actions like this are going to lead to no trust from them NOW, and when they get older. Maybe put even an ounce of trust in your kid and there actions would stop going so against your “perfect views.”

  3. This article makes perfect sense. I’m not sure why the above posters need to make extreme comments like the advice is “100% way too overprotective.” The fact of the matter is, kids are far more easily and readily exposed to inappropriate/potentially dangerous content/people than previous generations. The world is different than it was 10, 20 or 50 years ago. I fail to see how sticking your head in the sand and saying “just trust your kid” will help. Parents please stay involved and talk to your kids! They are young and impressionable and need your guidance!

  4. call me teen privacy activist

    honestly this just BLOWS my mind. i’m glad that my parents trusted me enough to actually let me have my own privacy and my own life. I cannot imagine the embarrasment a kid will have when their parents take their and all of their friends’ phones at night. like first of all i think its very disrespectful as a person and also, which parent will allow their kid to go to a sleepover when the parent at said sleepover takes the only communication device they have to you or the outside world? that seems more sketchy to me tbh.

    1. Hello, I don’t think we can fully compare our childhoods and “parental trust” with our kids who are growing up in the Internet era with personal electronic devices constantly available (smartphones, tablets, computers, etc). Parents today have to be more vigilant and protect against dangers that are more present and available with these personal electronic devices that are a gateway to lots of damaging material for our children’s young minds. I appreciate this list of 5 places. It’s a starting point for parents to consider when/where to put appropriate boundaries and rules so that children can grow in a healthy way. It’s naive and misguided to think that allowing your kids complete freedom and access will produce responsible and healthy behavior. Being the parent now is not easy but it’s our job to help our kids navigate a world that is changed by electronics.

  5. Why are you on this website if you find it so offensive? This is a site for parents who need help protecting their kids from the dangers lurking in certain corners of the internet until they are mature enough to fend for themselves. Its the same reason you hold your young childs’ hand when they cross the street and teach them to look both ways so they dont get run over – because they’re not wise enough yet to understand that crossing the street comes with risk. My own parents took a hands off approach, and I stumbled into porn, leading to a lifetime struggle with porn addiction; I hope to equip my kids to avoid the same fate. Thank you Chris for the work you do on this website!

  6. These “nay sayers” must have perfect children. My crew were all first generation internet users and I know exactly how many pitfalls there are out there and what happens if parents don’t take the reigns and reel in their kids. THAT’S OUR JOB !! Yes, we are to guide but we also instruct, rebuke and discipline!! We are not their buddies. We are their teachers and examples. I love my kids with all my heart but totally accept they are not perfect and over the years, have needed parental intervention. NEEDED. Maybe not wanted but definitely needed. Again, THAT’S OUR JOB!

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